Is Derogatory Comments Shattering Your Self Esteem? Speak Out !!!
Women’s day wishes for all superwomen reading this!! ‘’Derogatory comments’’, statements that shatter self-esteem! Yes, most women would have come across it in their lifetime. We would have been on the receiving end of such comments from our family members, neighbors, and even friends.
“Women Rise Up And Speak Out When You Get Derogatory Comments”
These comments may be anything about yourself, maybe the way you dress or look, your skills, your current status or your inability to go for job or study, etc.
If you are working women, you may receive certain derogatory comments at the workplace. People might comment on your inability to maintain work-life balance. If you are not working, you might face statements that degrade you for being lazy, and the worst thing is some people might add the word luckily because you can just relax the whole day (which is definitely not true).
If you are married and have a kid, you may get comments on your parenting skills and married life.
It is not just you; most women face such comments in their life. Be it in the early 20s or in late 60s, we, women keep receiving such comments.Speak out, rather than brooding over. “Just remember, the person who gives will also receive the same, someday.”
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Here are certain things you can do, if such derogatory comments shatter you inner self-esteem
1. Do not feel low or hurt as you receive, because who knows yourself better. As you feel hurt, you make them superior. People degrading you are neither mighty nor legends. You know the reason for doing things your own way. So, if people comment on that, do not feel hurt, follow the mantra “ignorance is bliss”.
2. Just remember, be the way you are. Let the comments not shatter you or make you take swift actions and change, just because you were not accepted by few around. Just think; it is their perspective to look at things.
3. Everyone has their own way to look at things. Comments may be; about your style, dress, and color or on what you do. Just keep in mind that, they are expressing what they feel. We normally get offended, because we forget that they talk what is in their mind. “Please do not mind the words, which come out, from their mind”
4. Use a mature defensive reply if the question offends you.“Be mature enough to look up to their face and explain”. Be bold enough to make them guilty, for the question they asked you, come up with a clear and crisp explanation.
5. Just forgive and forget.If nothing works, the best thing is to forgive and forget the words said by the person. “YouTube is loaded with forgiveness meditation”. Just put your earphones and listen.“No one is perfect! Each human they come across is different’’.
Always remember, better to ignore and feel calm, rather than to take it to our heads and feel worse.“Live the way you love, think of positive things, just be yourself. Rejoice your own life.
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I feel like social media gives people some sort of false confidence. It makes them feel like it’s ok to say derogatory things to others. I have been lucky so far in that i have had few, but I can’t let those opinions define me. It’s hard to ignore, but I definitely do.
Great article. Women need to stand strong if they want the culture to change-and we do! Be strong for yourself and the future.
YEs the older I get the more I stand up for myself/don’t care what people say. Excellent article! We need to stand our ground
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Wwow thought provoking article
What a great post! Sometimes you don’t even realize that the comment is hurtful until you sit down and really think about it. It is super important to stand up for yourself and let the other person know what is acceptable and what isn’t.
Excellent.Awesome really.
Excellent. Really awesome.
Excellent. Really awesome.
Good one
Super.. Well said
Super.. Well said
Nice article
Strong message to all
Self-love should be mantra of life!
Well-said. It’s important to surround ourselves with people who think positively- that’s half the battle won. Even if we do face negative comments, as long as we’re in a positive frame of mind, nothing can affect us.
I feel so empowered by your words we all women need to stand for each other
This is such an eye opening post. Sometimes we become so used to such remarks andcomments from partner and family that we actually dont realize that we should not be listening to those.
seriously, I too get comment sometimes on my look, parenting, blogging and lot more, I stop giving attention to all that useless talks . be happy in own world
Something I needed to read today. You mentioned some great pointers. Self esteem is important and we must teach this to our little girls too.
This is a really amazing post! Women face derogatory comments all the time! It is very important to not get hurt and think over and over! And replying the commenters is very important too!
As a blogger I can understand this very well, getting social rebuttal over a post or on taking a stand on social networking forums is very common today.
But as you mentioned ignorance is bliss at times.
Some things may be equally essential but nothing is more important than a healthy sense of self-esteem and loving yourself.
Well said, I am completely agree with u. As my nature is also like that to some extent and i always do what I like.
I like positive people around me.
It is very important to bring positivity in mind. Sometimes negative comments affect our mind badly but we need overcome that.
Not just derogatory comments, even harsh words can make one feel upset. Standing for yourself and ignoring others is always a good option.
That’s a strong message to all women out there. Derogatory comments should never be taken lightly. More so when we know what the truth is. Honestly I have been lucky in being loved at my profession or in personal life.
This is the time that women should take there stand and be strong. We have to handle any situation positively, everyday- everytime. 🙂
Wow!! Such a great post! This is so essential for everyone to know and stand up for themselves instead of ignoring the situation.