When we first get into a relationship, everything seems loving, caring, romantic and beautiful. We will be mad at our partner’s love to such an extent that we ignore the little initial red alert signs as protectiveness, affection or care. It is very obvious that no one can forecast the future of any relationship. It could be a successful and happy relationship with minor disagreement.Anger, detachment is part of every relationship but when this goes beyond the limit, it is must to acknowledge and accept the abusive relationship and should look forward to getting a solution to it.
Abuse is categorized into different types of emotional, physical, mental, sexual and verbal. At times it is very difficult to come out of such a terrible relationship, it is majorly due to the unwillingness of another person. So here are few ways
Get Out Of An Abusive Relationship Safely
1. Identify the Initial Warning Signs
The initial step is to identify and accept that you are in an abusive relationship. You may feel that your partner is a possessive person and not that bad.It is important to identify the behavior as abusive and one must be motivated to take timely necessary action. If the individual is in charge of all your earnings and wants you to get his/her permission for almost everything, threatens to break the relationship, forces you to behave out of your comfort zone are few warning signs that should not be ignored.
2.Financially Independence is Must
If your partner is abusive and controls finances then this is the worst situation. It is always advisable to create a secret account, find a secret place away from the house to hide your money maybe with some close friends whom you can trust.Do not deposit money into the joint account. Many financial dependent people continue to stay in an abusive relationship.
3.Always Plan in Advance
Always have an advance safety plan and involve people who you can trust your family and friend that will let them know if you are okay at the moment or if it’s a serious situation.Carry a safety kit ready and always make sure to inform your neighbors, friends, and families.
4.Do not hesitate to Get Help
Victims prefer to stay in abusive relationships because they are too embarrassed to tell their folks about the trauma they are going through.Majorly all the abuser behave extremely loving and caring in public. The fact is the problem won’t be solved magically, it is important to get help try to get help as soon as possible.
5.Never take a ‘U’ turn
It is important to accept the fact that your relationship has not turned out the way you would have wanted it to. It is best to get out of it before it becomes a nightmare and threat to your life.If you have decided to move on, never ever return to your partner hoping everything will be alright.
6. Time Heals Everything
Once you get out of an abusive relationship it is important to focus on your recovery. Don’t hesitate to consult specialist and therapist who can help you come out of it. Visit your friends and family, they will be helpful in bringing your life back on track.You are broken and will require help to bring your life on track.
If you are a victim get help